And then we wake up feeling a slight emptiness within, albeit winding up in a plethora of thoughts; a certain sadness that carries on throughout the day, a slowness deep inside, entering an emotional state of mind that takes over our bodies: melancholy.
We have all, most likely, felt melancholic before. Sometimes, for no explainable reason. Sometimes, it just overcomes us. And sometimes, it lingers. Melancholy usually has a negative connotation. However, speaking for ourselves, being melancholic can be beautiful in that it provides the creative fuel that’s oftentimes needed to create. And more so: Melancholy touches on happiness, inevitably.
Present with the Inner Voice
We get lost in thinking that takes over the reality of the moment we’re in. Diving into the pool of thought, deeply into our mind’s world, we have the opportunity to simply listen. This, then, can fully encompass our existence – who we are – for a moment of time. Distanced from the busy “now”.
We become present with our inner voice. Melancholy – an opportunity to dig deeper, allow the wall of our subconscious to crumble as we reach for our rawest emotions. Acknowledging what our inner self tells us, we have the chance to hone the feelings that derive from it. Exactly this makes melancholy beautiful. Embracing those feelings of seemingly sadness; they are just intertwined with the happiness that was lying before it – and will follow soon. But in this melancholic moment, don’t think negatively.
There was a sadness over me, a melancholy. […] those are some of the things that lead you to the arts – Mahershala Ali
Rather, use those feelings flowing abundantly to create. Take advantage of them and express yourself in whatever way you see suitable and healing. Write that story. Create that poem. Think about a song’s lyrics. Emotions are best expressed by words. Find them – and your medium to communicate them, if only to your very own conscious self. But allow your spirits to roam free.
Your voice from within – listen. Do not try to shake off the seemingly “negative”, for there is no such thing when it comes to feelings. They are real and beautiful. Make us human. Allow us to process. And that’s important for a balanced life. We cannot always frantically try to reach for happiness, blocking emotions labeled as rather disturbing or contradictory to a happy life. Rather, it’s a harmonious yin and yang relationship. Respect what you feel. Pause. Listen. Understand and respect. It’s inspiring, if you allow yourself to be carried by melancholy. Let it come to the surface, flow freely. It’s cleansing. Use it to create something beautiful.
Emotional State Determined by Nature
Seasons are all too often reflections of our state of emotion. That just, wonderfully enough, goes to show how much we are part of the rhythm of this earth’s cycle. Spring is the season of rebirth, of joy and laughter about what’s starting anew. Summer, then, is the high of optimism, of being full of life. Come autumn, we slow down and begin to reflect upon our lives, about the paths we go. Seasons change; leaves fall.
I can barely conceive of a type of beauty in which there is no melancholy – Charles Baudelaire
The cleansing begins – figuratively. Hence, as rain falls, going into winter, trees stripped naked, so are our thoughts and feelings free to flow to the surface and encompass all we are. Transparency. White and gray. “Back to the basics” as in: back to who we truly are, letting out inner voice speak and draw us in. Moments of silence and personal space of uninterrupted thoughtfulness await. Pureness.
Melancholy is serenity. A beautifully precious and fragile alone time granting us space to regroup with our self. The seasons take control. Thus, they pave the way and provide a platform for our emotions to speak at their rawest.
For Moments Will Pass
Happiness is holding the hand of sadness tightly. They are intertwined, and it just so makes sense. When we experience a moment that we cherish or look at nature in particular, we can feel both happy, yet oftentimes experience a slight feeling of unease creep in. Melancholy – for we realize the beauty of the present, while, simultaneously, mourning the anticipated loss of this very moment that will pass too soon.
Who can explain the secret pathos of nature’s loveliness? It is a touch of melancholy inherited from our mother Eve – Henry van Dyke
In fact, everything that is finite, transient, is melancholy. We look at the rolling hills of a breathtaking scenery and stand in awe, while being overcome with the feeling that, soon, this moment will end. But once it has passed, once nature has evolved, so have we, and have the chance to see another moment anew. Oh, what beautiful melancholy.
What makes you melancholic?